Among the couple-specific terms Serge and I use, the word tantricity (tantricité, French being our everyday language) enjoys the top popularity. Whenever two things harmonize as if two jigsaw puzzle pieces join together, we say they are tantric ('Tantrique!'). They may be ideas, clothes, tunes, colors, clouds, jokes, times and spaces, or couples (of course!), work and worker, instrument and musician, mind and soul, house and landscape, mountain and valley, dog and its owner, even dog and cat... well, any two things and events that match spontaneously and completely, immediately and forever.
We often experience hardly explainable, almost instinctive attraction or aversion towards and against certain people and things, concrete or abstract. We feel that something goes with or against our feelings. There is no mystery in it. It's not a matter of favoritism or prejudice. It's only too natural a phenomenon of our living in a world filled with all patterns and lengths of vibrations. Vibrations are honest, to say the least. With words and appearances (and alas, money), we can deceive our eyes and mind, but their underlying vibrations cannot deceive our heart and feelings.
When exposed to foreign things (I use this word just for convenience' sake against my belief that everything is one), my perception is usually reduced to their vibrations, which are classified (one of those ugly but extremely convenient words) into three spectral regions of sattva (angelic; altruistic; give; balancing), rajas (humane; calculative; give and take; dispersing), and tamas (demonic; egoistic; take; clutching). We cook our own meals with our vibrational base ingredients and feed ourselves and try to feed others our favorite dishes.
This said, I can imagine that the world is a big jigsaw puzzle with exactly matching pieces. The problem is that they are dispersed in random directions, just like a huge tangle of numberless jigsaw pieces. There are barely two matching adjacent pieces. In terms of couples, A+, the tantric match of A-, keeps looking around to find A- or ends his journey meeting B-. Such non-tantric couples have choices between filing (self-abnegating) or gnawing (grudging) their own mismatching corners and/or grinding (painstaking) or breaking (violent) the other's mismatching corners. Depending on which way they choose, a non-tantric couple can learn from each other and grow together into two (at least artificially) matching pieces, or they live in an endless series of manipulations and shenanigans till they break their relationship or/and each other.
Self-abnegation is an ideal choice of action if efforts are necessary to make jigsaw pieces fit into each other. By putting our own interests and benefits behind those of others and letting others gain and win, we do not lose anything important. What we lose are things that weigh down our mind and soul. We only lose the weight that our soul has to bear in the end. What others gain are things that weigh heavily against their soul. Apart from this natural law, those who are ready to abnegate themselves for others do not have many opportunities to do so, as they attract only good vibrations. By this fundamental natural law, they tend to have the right pieces around them.
Not somewhere, but here, not someday, but now, with the exponentially increasing possibilities of searching and meeting matching jigsaw pieces from all angles of life as well as the soaring awareness about the spiritual side of life, I see an emerging new world full of tantricity.
We often experience hardly explainable, almost instinctive attraction or aversion towards and against certain people and things, concrete or abstract. We feel that something goes with or against our feelings. There is no mystery in it. It's not a matter of favoritism or prejudice. It's only too natural a phenomenon of our living in a world filled with all patterns and lengths of vibrations. Vibrations are honest, to say the least. With words and appearances (and alas, money), we can deceive our eyes and mind, but their underlying vibrations cannot deceive our heart and feelings.
When exposed to foreign things (I use this word just for convenience' sake against my belief that everything is one), my perception is usually reduced to their vibrations, which are classified (one of those ugly but extremely convenient words) into three spectral regions of sattva (angelic; altruistic; give; balancing), rajas (humane; calculative; give and take; dispersing), and tamas (demonic; egoistic; take; clutching). We cook our own meals with our vibrational base ingredients and feed ourselves and try to feed others our favorite dishes.
This said, I can imagine that the world is a big jigsaw puzzle with exactly matching pieces. The problem is that they are dispersed in random directions, just like a huge tangle of numberless jigsaw pieces. There are barely two matching adjacent pieces. In terms of couples, A+, the tantric match of A-, keeps looking around to find A- or ends his journey meeting B-. Such non-tantric couples have choices between filing (self-abnegating) or gnawing (grudging) their own mismatching corners and/or grinding (painstaking) or breaking (violent) the other's mismatching corners. Depending on which way they choose, a non-tantric couple can learn from each other and grow together into two (at least artificially) matching pieces, or they live in an endless series of manipulations and shenanigans till they break their relationship or/and each other.
Self-abnegation is an ideal choice of action if efforts are necessary to make jigsaw pieces fit into each other. By putting our own interests and benefits behind those of others and letting others gain and win, we do not lose anything important. What we lose are things that weigh down our mind and soul. We only lose the weight that our soul has to bear in the end. What others gain are things that weigh heavily against their soul. Apart from this natural law, those who are ready to abnegate themselves for others do not have many opportunities to do so, as they attract only good vibrations. By this fundamental natural law, they tend to have the right pieces around them.
Not somewhere, but here, not someday, but now, with the exponentially increasing possibilities of searching and meeting matching jigsaw pieces from all angles of life as well as the soaring awareness about the spiritual side of life, I see an emerging new world full of tantricity.
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